Volume Two explains the neurological aspect of heartbreak and the inevitability of a certain amount of ‘love-madness’. The brain of the bereaved can evolve past the misery of heartbreak, but only under certain conditions that are the topic of Volume 2.
Table of contents of volume 2
Heartbreak, Mourning, Loss
the brain in love
Volume 2 summarizes the scientific mapping of the brain that explains why love madness is part of everyone’s psyche.
It explains how love inevitably creates panic when it is withdrawn. Knowing how the brain interprets heartbreak helps you choose what keeps you hooked on hope as oppsed to what takes you out of the desert.
Chapter 1
Bypass your synaptic bundle of fear
Your million year old psyche
The three actors in your drama
Your crocodile psychology: grab, grip, hit
There you are my crocodile!
Your puppy psychology: beg, whine, wait.
Your regression to a preverbal vulnerability
Attachment theories
There you are my puppy!
The wolf separated from the pack: the broken heart syndrome
The art of consoling
Neuromania and Darwinitis
Is it in my genes, my brain or my soul?
Becoming a wise human
The inner and the outer
Chapter 2
Neuroscience and the unconscious
My life in a copter
Bev-cog dominance is over
You can’t repair the past
The slave complex
No ego, no Self, no identity.
Chapter 3
What you mother never told you
Are you lovable? Or maybe a little passive-aggressive?
I am a champion procrastinator
I am dependent but won’t admit it
I feel inadequate but cover it with uppityness
Why should I show respect ?
I am a champion of mixed messages
Your second chance at growing up
Unload some projections
Chapter 4
Ah! Jealousy
Rivalry can be a factor of evolution
You don’t own the partner
Beware of psychic inflation
A relationship addiction is the same as a gambling addiction
There is a way around jealousy.
Is it envy or jealousy?
Chapter 5
Relationship addiction
The realm of the invisible
If I am not myself anymore, who can I be?
I am garbage!
I, the frigid beauty queen
Chapter 6
Narcissism: a trend and a curse
The rage of a baby
Partnering with a narcissist
The narcissist as a self-loathing individual
The narcissist as a self-adoring individual
The trophy partner: narcissism by another name
The cashmere label
Conclusion
Prudence